Food Fear Factor

"He's just anxious."

How many of us know someone who has the flu and afterwards, for a time, avoids the food they ate  before the flu started? Logically, they know that pasta dinner did not cause the flu, but physiologically, their stomach turns every time they look at a plate of pasta.

Now imagine that instead of throwing up, that plate of pasta made it difficult to breathe, caused you to be rushed to the emergency room, ended with shots, and tests, and medications, and more tests. Is it surprising that a child looks at everything on the table that night and says, "I don't want to eat that."?

Allergic Living recently published an article, "5 Reasons Patients Shun Critical Food Allergy Testing." Number three on the list was fear of the oral test.

Allergists have (among other things) the job of determining what is safe to eat.  Lives and, depending on the circumstances, nutrition, can be improved by broadening the diet. But, allergists can also undermine the confidence of patients by dismissing fear as "just anxiety."

Our Experience:

James does not test allergic to apple. It was one of the foods he was tested for OAS for. In fact, it was the food that caused a reaction that made the allergist think he had OAS, yet the testing was negative. Since the testing was negative and OAS generally results in minor reactions, the allergist recommended we test apple at home. We haven't. James has no interest in eating apple (he does eat cooked apple). I don't care. He eats plenty of fruits. If he never eats another apple, he is not missing out nutritionally.

Last October, right before our first appointment with Dr. Li, James's allergist recommended a food challenge for soy and wheat. Dr. Li suggested we wait. James implemented a two allergist agreement rule for any food challenge so we are waiting. We would have waited on Dr. Li's request anyway. The time of waiting has been good for James. It has given him time to think about adding in the food, about what a challenge would be like, pass or fail. There are times when anticipation increases anxiety, but this has been about working towards a goal, with each swallowed pills and slather of cream, he takes back some control.

So, if all the tests look good in October, then those are food challenges he will complete. Soy and wheat, unlike apple, would make a huge difference in all of our lives. And, I expect, when the time comes, we will all be a little anxious. But, having taken time and allowed confidence to re-grow, I don't think it will be unmanageable.

Advice to Parents

You know your child. You need to make a careful consideration of all the factors and come to a decision. It's not a time to allow outside pressure from anyone - allergist, family members, strangers writing blogs - influence you, however well meaning they are.

1. Take your time. 

2. Work with your allergist.

3. Don't be afraid of taking your child to a therapist if needed. According to this toolkit from the National Eating Disorders Association, presence of a food allergy is a risk factor for an eating disorder. Obviously, most people with food allergies do not develop an eating disorder, however, if you notice that your child has developed extreme fear or avoidance behavior, professional intervention may be needed.

4. Celebrate your successes. I find this can be a one step forward, two steps back process, so we celebrate every step forward.

Has your child had and food based fear? What have you found helps?